“Wait one year”

Every widow hears the statement “Wait one year before making any major decisions”. This is wise advice, but not always possible. We were under contract for kitchen reconstruction when my husband died. The kitchen sink was falling through the floorboards of our 70-year-old farmhouse.

The house had originated as a garage for a model-T long before we arrived. Over the years, unskilled family members had done what was needed to add on, making it into a small bungalow. Nearly every family member had lived in the bungalow at one time or another, but when we arrived the house had been abandoned for 10 years, with signs of deterioration from the neglect. At that time, even the roof was falling. We repaired the roof, did major inside work, and enjoyed the home, but after living in it for 20 years, it was time to take care of the kitchen.

The sinking sink corner (haha) with its adjacent wall and falling floor led to the takedown of another interior wall which led to the takedown of the extended kitchen floor, which left me looking at the dirt and walking on joists. Before re-construction could begin, the outside wall of the kitchen needed replacing, a space for the water tanks established, and… I think you’ve got the picture. Sometimes there is no way to estimate the cost of or degree of work that needs to be done when we start remodeling. Much under-the-surface work had to be done. The kitchen didn’t pay for all that itself, I did!

When we see how God sees us and when we acknowledge that we need a sort of remodeling, when we see ourselves or perhaps our very childhood foundations as falling apart or neglected, when we acknowledge our damaged emotions and our selfishness, then He is free to infuse us with His Spirit, giving us a new start at life. For some, there is a drastic change, for some a total redesign and for some just what appears as minor repairs. No one knows the extent of another’s foundational reconstruction, but the cost is the price Christ paid; it was what God was willing to sacrifice to give each of us that new start. He has a plan for each of us. What a big God we serve.

A Bible verse in Phil 1:6 says, “I am very certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”